A friend sent me an investment banker’s cover letter for a second date, saying it reminded her of me.
First, read it. It’s…it’s special.
Second, yes, yes, a thousand times yes. Or two times, anyway. Two men (both engineers) have asked me out on a second date again after I said no, and two men (an economist and an engineer) have asked me for feedback as to why I said no.
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I remember reading that particular letter a while ago – I think I saw it linked on Business Insider or some other financial website. I honestly don’t get why guys do that. In my experience, when a girl tells you that she isn’t interested, that typically isn’t code for “Try asking once more, with feeling”. Are these dudes so insecure that they can’t handle a wee bit of rejection?
Hm. My best guess is that most women are raised to be “nice”, and most men aren’t raised to realize that “nice” isn’t tantamount to “interested.” In addition, some men might be confused by the fact that some interested women may disavow their interest in physical intimacy, but rarely their interest in a relationship. Put another way, “No, it’s too soon” might lead to sex, but “No, I don’t want to go on another date” probably won’t lead to a relationship.